By contributor Phaedra Anderson

Have you ever tried on a pair of shoes that were a bit tight and maybe even too small for you, but you were so fond of them that you purchased them anyway? You just had to have them. You were so into the look of the shoe that you totally disregarded the pain that they would cause to your feet; figuring that it wouldn’t be that bad. Suppressing the fact that you already know from the beginning that you can’t fit those shoes, you buy them anyway. So, you wear them the first time and there was some discomfort, but you figured you would stretch them out, change the shape a little, so that they would fit you. You wear them the second time and you still notice some discomfort, but it’s still bearable.

However, once you take them off you notice that there’s a cut on your foot where the material started to rub your skin off, but you like the shoes so much, that you wear them, again and this time they kill you. You’ve walked in them for so long that it feels like your feet are bleeding. They start to effect your walk, your balance, your back. Your feet now have calluses and blisters and the pain is so unbearable that you are forced to take them off. At this point you begin to curse those stupid shoes, but the shoes are just fine. Actually, the shoes were perfect. They just weren’t for you. You have now inflicted pain upon yourself, because you thought that you could change the size and shape of a shoe that was not made for you.

My point is, a lot of times we try to make ourselves fit in places that we know that we don’t belong in or force ourselves on people that we know that we don’t belong with. Did you ever stop to think that maybe that person is rejecting you, not because they don’t care, but maybe he/she is not equipped to handle a person of your caliber? Just like that shoe was not made to fit a foot your size? Sometimes we try to force ourselves on people and GOD has not equipped that person to carry us; God has not given that person the gifts to add to the joy and happiness in our lives, but often we continue to force it, because we are so infatuated with a look and we end up crippling ourselves in the process, because the more we force it, the more pain it causes us, until finally we are so bruised and beaten, drained and unstable that we have no choice, but to let that person go.

GOD has given us all a spirit that signals us from the very beginning when something is not for us and it’s time that we start to listen and stop trying to get in where we don’t fit in, so that we can live up to HIS standards and walk in the shoes that HE has made for us, so that our walk is in peace, that our walk is straight, and that our walk is with integrity, grace and righteousness.

Are your shoes too small?

By:  Phaedra Anderson

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  • Anonymous
    March 14, 2011 at 8:34 am

    funnily enough I've recently been mulling over a situation like this with a friend, and I came to the conclusion of 'stop pushing' some things just aren't meant to be. No biggie. Some folks just aren't meant to be a part of your story.

  • Beverly Thomas-Brewer
    March 14, 2011 at 10:57 am

    Great post…because if you have a standard and it's pure and full of grace then the people you surround yourself with should have that same exact spirit….!

  • Phaedra
    March 15, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    Thank you both for your comments. Anonymous, Lord knows that I've had my share of "too small shoes" & I too have come to the same conclusion that everyone just doesn't fit in my story.

    Beverly, yes a "standard" is a must and it can't be set too low, because if you are anything like me, shoes that are too low or flat hurt my feet, just as standards that are too low hurt my walk n Christ…lol

  • Rachel Johnson
    March 18, 2011 at 2:56 pm

    I had to share this on my page!! Absolutely inspiring! Thankyou sista Phae!!

  • Phaedra
    March 18, 2011 at 11:01 pm

    Hi Rachel, it blesses me to know that "TOO SMALL SHOES" was inspiring to you. We thank you much for your support and for finding it worth sharing with others. We have to keep each other lifted.


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