Through the eyes of your child what emits back through their cornea, the part of the eye that is like a camera lens? What is it that your child or children see of you on a regular basis? We have the responsibility to raise them up in a way that is pleasing to God. That means that we are not to live a life that says do as I say not as I do. It means we are to live a life that they can emulate later in life and instill those same values and principles in their own children. So much damage is being done by parents to their children that is absolutely mindboggling and downright shameful. The children born to you did not choose you and yet they’re stuck with you. Let me ask you, through the eyes of a child; is this the image they see?
• A parent who insists their child/children go to church and yet the parent lives their life as though they don’t know Jesus the other six days of the week?
• A parent who walks around saying God bless you and out of their mouth on a regular basis the child hears them cussing others out?
• A parent who puts their respective courting partner before the needs of their own child?
• A parent who brings courting partners into their lives that have no values and morals? contributing nothing emotionally or financially?
• A parent who brings courting partners into their lives who are abusive to them and to their children?
• A parent who misappropriates funds given by God opting for frivolity then can’t pay the basic bills needed to provide for the family?
• A parent who tells their child they’ll never amount to anything? Calls their child stupid? Is always tearing them down?
I could go on and on. The question begs, don’t you want to give your children a chance in life? Many times our children act up because we are not giving them the love, the time, the attention, or the encouragement they need to mine their way through this thing called life. Our young girls search for the love of a man that they just can’t seem to get from their fathers. This means they tend to get together with any pair of britches if they dare to say those five magic words, “Girl you know I love you.” Our young men tend to emulate the men they’ve seen come around or even worse they have a strong need to prove themselves and an even stronger need to feel accepted since they’ve been torn down by the very one who should be building them up.
Here are some images that should be seen and embraced through the eyes of a child:
• A parent who encourages them to be the best they can be.
• A parent who exercises tough love, when, the occasion calls for it.
• A parent who rightly identifies with Christian behavior, therefore allowing their child to witnesses such Christian behavior on a regular basis. The parent is a walking epistle.
• A parent who shows by example what it means to have work ethics, be a good citizen, and live in a way that exudes character and respect for authority.
• A parent who has a spirit of hospitality, a spirit of compassion, and one who always endeavors to see the best in others.
You can add to this list also. It is time to end the constant destruction being done to our children and time for parents to be parents in a way that builds our children up instead of tearing them down. Like marriage parenthood should not be entered into lightly. You will have to sacrifice, you will have to discipline yourself, you will have to put some of your wants and desires on the back burner to ensure that your children’s needs are met both emotionally and financially. Remember, you’re the one who decided to have children so you should be the one making the sacrifice. If we don’t stop this emotional chaotic rollercoaster that has taken over the very fabric of the family then we position ourselves to continue to see the following:
• Escalating divorces
• Escalating violence towards one another
• Escalating sexual promiscuity
• Escalating single parent households
• Escalating emotionally disturbed children
Let’s stop the cycle. If you have not lived in a way that you want your child to emulate, then apologize to your child and immediately begin a corrective program to bring your child/children into a healthy realm of existence.
Keeping It Real with Angela Harris