By Education Contributor Dr. Tekemia Dorsey
There comes a point in a person’s life; a mother, a father, an entrepreneur, or even a responsible adult- when all the odds seem to be stacked against you. As a mother of four (ages 2, 4, 6, & 13) I feel as thought everywhere I turn there are roadblocks rearing their ugly heads. Roadblocks in business, roadblocks in education, roadblocks in relationships, roadblocks in weight loss, roadblocks in life. 2010 was a challenging year and I vowed that 2011 would be different. Despite how things look on the outside, internally my world is spinning out of control.
Due to financial constaints as a single mom, I had to remove all four of my children from private Christian school last week and this week, I will begin home schooling them. Yes, all four of them. As I counted up all of the money I have to date, I barely will make the mortgage this month. The goal was only to remove three of the four children but I had to have the conversation with the oldest son that he too would no longer be attending school for the remainder of the school year. A converstaion much needed for him to know he didn’t do anything wrong but more importantly for him to know this situation will be TEMPORARY!
You see things in life are TEMPORARY only if you allow it to be. As I spoke with my oldest son, I said to him, “Do you know what temporary means?” and he said, “Yes!” I said, “What does it mean?” He said, “Not forever!” I said, “EXACTLY!” This is a temporary situation we are going through as a family. There are four months left in the school year and for these four months they will be home schooled. After having the discussion he felt better and began to look at the situation more positively.
You see in order for a change to occur in this situation, as hard as it has been, I had to have a “paradigm shift” in my thought process. When I began to accept the massive change that was inevitable, I began to introduce it to my kids. As hard as I wanted to leave the oldest one in private school to complete his last few months of middle school, the wordly side of the situation did not agree. From a spiritual standpoint, I had to accept the situation as it was.
As the change agent in my home, I had to acknowledge, confirm, and affirm my situation as “TEMPORARY!” Temporary that it will not be forever because for everything there is a season. Whatever you are going through, you must understand, it is temporary and it will only remain temporary, if you programme your mind to think, act, and behave in such a manner.
As tough as this week may appear with home schooling everyoone for the 1st time, what is going to help me as a mom, professor, entrepreneur, educator, etc. is to know that the situation is a temporary one. Each day I wake up remains a new day to change the present and to prepare for the future.
As parents, educators, entrepreneurs, or just persons in life, you must embracce your situation as “Temporary!” It too shall pass and there will be a new season and a new challenge but you hold the key
Dr. Tekemia Dorsey
Author/Motivational Speaker/Entrepreneur/Radio Host/Champion of Youth/Leadership Guru