Hello Bronze Lovelies! If you’re in a romantic relationship right now, then you probably already know how important communication is and that it’s not a one-way street. When was the last time you thought about your communication style and how you can improve the way you talk with your partner?
It can be easy to fall into communication patterns within a relationship and not even realize the harm it can be doing. Keep reading to find out how you can improve the communication in your relationship to rekindle the love and make the bond you have with your boo even stronger.
Spend Time Together In The Morning
Mornings can be tough, especially if you aren’t a morning person. However, it’s important to have a consistent morning routine each day to set yourself up for success and to put yourself in a positive mindset. One thing that should be included in your morning routine is spending quality time with your partner before you start your day to create romantic habits and a closer connection.
This could be by sipping your coffee together without any other distractions or going for a morning stroll around the block. Whatever works best for the two of you, make it a point to do this each day or as often as you can so you’ll always have time to talk to each other before life’s daily stressors begin. You’ll be able to let the other person know what’s on your plate for the day and when they can expect you home. It’ll also give you something more to ask them about at the end of the day since you already know what their plans were. Mornings are a great time to check in with each other and talk candidly about how you’re doing.
Actively Listen To Each other
There’s a significant difference between passive and active listening when someone else is speaking. When you passively listen, you’re not as attentive and could be thinking about other things. If your focus is on what you want the outcome of the conversation to be, how you’re going to respond, or judging what they have to say, you’re not giving your full attention to the conversation.
Whereas, when you’re actively listening, you’re listening to the other person to understand what they’re saying. You’re giving them your undivided attention, acknowledging them through body language like head nods, and not passing any judgment. Actively listening will make a world of difference in your conversations and will help bring you and your partner closer together knowing that the other person is attentively listening.
Regularly Check-In About Your Relationship
It’s important to check in with your partner occasionally about how they feel and how they think your relationship is going. This conversation is important to have as it allows you two to discuss what’s working and what’s not, as well as express any concerns you may have. Consider using a relationship journal if you need help tracking your thoughts and any occurrences that you want to bring up later on.
You can also take this time to talk about your future together and double-check if you both have the same intentions. Consistent check-ins are a great idea to make sure you’re both still happy and will make any future discussions about serious topics that much easier if you’re already comfortable having transparent conversations on the regular.
Speak Up In The Bedroom
Not only is communication important in the bedroom because of consent purposes, but also because it’s a way to express to your partner your sexual desires and fantasies. Unless you have superpowers, mind reading is rather difficult, especially in the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner if there are any toys or new positions that you want to try. Building a stronger connection intimately will allow for a stronger connection mentally.
Additionally, it’s important to discuss any sexual difficulties that you might be having, too. For women, this could be having a low sex drive or vaginal dryness. Alternatively, male partners may have trouble maintaining an erection. Talk with your partner about how you can work through any difficulties, whether it be looking into an effective treatment for erectile dysfunction like Viagra or going to a professional sex therapist for help. Communicating in the bedroom will bring you closer intimately and spiritually. It’ll also help strengthen your trust with each other as you experience vulnerability in the bedroom.
Give Meaningful Compliments & Express Gratitude
When you get comfortable with someone and have been seeing them for a long time, it can be easy to stop reminding them of how great they are. Instead of just thinking about how much you adore them, communicate that you appreciate them dearly and try to express what you love about them the most. This can go a long way and rekindle the energy you had at the beginning of the relationship. It also gives them the reassurance that you still deeply care about them and respect them, which will make conversations go much smoother knowing that they have your support and care.
Tell Them What You Need
Remember that no one can read your mind and that you’re the only one who truly knows what you’re thinking. Honesty is always the best policy, so if something is on your mind it’s better to be open about it than hold it in and risk the chance of releasing your thoughts all at once. Keep in mind too that you can’t read your partner’s mind, so pay attention to their body language and how they’re acting so you can ask them if somethings wrong. Be transparent with your partner about what you need from them and how you can work together to maintain a healthy, loving relationship.
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